June 4th, 2009 by aaks
Current explanations of the cause and cure of problems involving such things as: extreme nervousness, anxiety and panic; obsessive thinking and compulsive behaviour; phobias and depression have failed millions of people looking to understand and overcome these problems. Beliefs about illness / medical / genetic causes and treatments based upon these beliefs have not even come close to an answer.
Yet, when we look closely at these problems we can see that they are not:-
Diseases - They follow a logical psychological progression based on our life experiences and we can map exactly what happened and why, the effect it had on us and how this fits in with our problem.
Mental illness - most people with these problems are actually above average intelligence and are fully aware of what is happening, yet feel powerless to stop it.
Chemical imbalances - Synapses, those connections between the neurons in our brain (around 10,000 for each neuron), are tiny spaces that are occupied by chemical messengers called neurotransmitters that carry information between neurons. Serotonin and Dopamine are two neurotransmitters regularly mentioned with regard to anxiety and depression problems and chemical imbalance, usually referring to deficiencies of these neurotransmitters, is often proffered as a reason for anxiety disorders and depression.
Well, anxiety and depression deplete our body of many resources, including: energy, vitamins and no doubt neurotransmitters. Surely, any chemical imbalance is the result of these problems not the cause. Balancing chemicals in the brain through the action of drugs may alleviate some symptoms to a degree but never touches the cause.
Curable with drugs - medication works on a physical level. These problems are psychological and the answer is psychological. Whilst short-term medication may be beneficial for symptom relief, drugs never touch the underlying reason for these problems. Indeed, the mere act of taking medication can make the underlying cause worse.
Due to genes - evolution and our genes provide us with predispositions not fixed behaviours. A way we are predisposed to behave given the right environment. That is, our life experiences. We cannot be programmed with fixed behaviours (eg. OCD or GAD) for we don’t know the environment we will be born into … it would not be adaptive to react with extreme anxiety to unconditional love.
And most importantly, these problems are not ‘disorders’ or irrational - our mind and body are perfectly ordered in what they are trying to do, and we get them for the most rational reason there will ever be … for our survival.
We can spend a lifetime looking for the right cure for our ‘illness’ - if only we can find the right pill or method. Unfortunately, in doing this, we are looking at these problems in totally the wrong way.
When we look at the backgrounds of large numbers of people with anxiety problems, they are often strikingly similar in many ways. Negative life experiences and subsequent feelings involving self worth and insecurity occur across the board with such regularity and are so similar that it is hard to see how they cannot possibly play a major role in these problems.
Far from being an illness, something strange that has happened to us, or something that is wrong with us, we can see exactly how we develop anxiety disorders (and depression). They follows a logical psychological progression based on our life experiences and learning, and we can follow step-by-step exactly what happens to us and why.
Events in our lives and the effect they had on us conspire to bring about anxiety-related problems … life experiences that have made us feel afraid and unable to cope. Not usually single frightening instances (with the exception of some forms of PTSD) they more likely develop from general living situations which involve such things as: constantly being put down, being ridiculed, being made to feel ashamed, made to feel guilty and made to feel worthless. When we feel like this often, it’s not surprising that anxiety takes over.
The interplay between experiences, thoughts, feelings and deep-seated survival instincts make these problems seem so powerful, that something drastic is wrong with us, yet the potential to develop anxiety problems lies within us all, it is a part of human nature, and it only takes the right (or ‘wrong′) set of experiences to bring them out.
Given a certain series of events, conditions and circumstances every single person on the planet can start to become highly nervous, over anxious and insecure for much of the time, for this behaviour reflects the way we all work as human beings.
And once nervousness and anxiety start to rule our lives it’s not long before greater problems, those problems we define as ‘anxiety disorders’ today, start to take shape.
When we see anxiety disorders for what they are: behaviours learned and conditioned due to our life experiences, we can really do something about them.
By Terry Dixon, founder of Help-For.com and author of the book - Evolving Self Confidence: How to Become Free from Anxiety Disorders and depression.Article Source:http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/anxiety-disorders-and-depression-a-better-way-to-understand-them-950028.html
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June 4th, 2009 by aaks
There are some days when everything seems to be going wrong. You knock your water glass over as you reach to switch off the alarm, there’s no coffee left in the coffee jar and when you stand on the scales you’ve put on two pounds, despite the fact that you only ate lettuce leaves yesterday! We have all experienced days which start like this and we all have our own pet phrase which we mutter to ourselves whilst it is all happening; “typical”, “why can’t I get anything ******* right?”, “what have I done to deserve this?” Sometimes, things just get on top of even the calmest and most laid back person around. All you want to do is to go back to bed, and start the day again.
Oh, to be able to rewind the clock, to just pick up the clock, take hold of the winder and turn it back an hour! We all think of this, we all wish for this but it doesn’t happen. The day continues and your temper becomes steadily more frayed as the litany of disaster unfolds. What on earth can you do to stop it, to halt this negative progression through the day?
There is, in actual fact, a simple way in which you can change your feelings, and hence your experiences, and it takes moments to put into place. The human mind is a tremendous thing and it is amazingly adaptable. People say that we women have the prerogative to “change our minds”. In actual fact we all, men and women alike, have the power to change our minds. We can choose how we think about something and hence how we feel about that something. We can quite literally “turn a blind eye” or “a deaf ear″ to things; we can “sweep things under the carpet” or “turn our backs” to whatever it may be.
The problem which many of us have is that whilst these abilities kick in inadvertently, we haven’t worked out how to use these mental skills with intent. These are mental skills, and very powerful they are, and empowering too. Just think how much happier you would be if you could intentionally “turn a blind eye” to everything that would otherwise upset you?…The water glass tips over and you just think “oh well, it’s just water. It won’t stain, it will dry quickly””. That already feels so much better. You reach for the coffee jar, find there is none left and think that orange juice is much better for you in any case, whilst jotting “coffee” down on your shopping list. Better again. And then you weigh yourself once a week instead of once a day!
I think we all know that this is how we would like to think, that you would feel a lot happier if you thought in this way, but just don’t know how to make the mental changes necessary. It is all too easy to get stuck in a rut in the way we think, and instinctively we react in accordance with these old and familiar patterns. But these do not lead to happiness. If you are feeling unhappy and you want to change you have to learn to access the inner workings of your mind. Then you have the ability to change these old, deep rooted patterns of thought, reactions and behavior.
If your reaction of frustration, anger or unhappiness is one which “pops out” instinctively, unbidden and unbeckoned by your conscious and logical mind, then it is a habitual pattern of thought, one which is powered by subconscious thought processes, based upon prior experience. We tend to think that we are forever enslaved by such patterns, that this is just “how we are”. Yet this is untrue. You can change anything you want to, so long as you are willing and so long as you know to use hypnosis to access your subconscious mind. Hypnosis has the power to make you happy!
You need hypnosis, because hypnosis is a natural state of mind which allows access to your subconscious mind. If the pattern of behavior you wish to change is driven by subconscious forces, it follows that you must access your subconscious mind as a starting place. You don’t enter a race mid way - you start at the starting line! You can learn to use hypnosis easily with the help of hypnosis downloads.
Once in hypnosis you have the power to change how you think. Hypnotic suggestions can be given to guide you to respond to situations and circumstances in a way which will allow you to feel happy and to fully enjoy life. Hypnosis downloads can be used to guide you to feel healthy, happy and successful.
Everything in life starts with how you think about it, whether that thought is conscious or springs unbidden from your subconscious. As you learn to control and direct your thoughts with the help of hypnosis downloads you will be in control of your feelings and emotions. You can learn to turn unhappiness into happiness in a very short time frame. You really can learn to be happy in just one hour, with the help of hypnosis.
Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis downloads to assist you in being happy, healthy and successful.
With a degree in psychology and qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download from http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com and peruse her extensive library of hypnosis downloads for happiness, self-improvement and success.
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June 4th, 2009 by aaks
Hypnosis is the art of helping the subconscious mind to set and achieve a goal. For instance, many people use hypnosis for weight loss. A session of hypnosis intended for weight loss may start with putting the patient into a trance. It then continues by placing pictures of a slimmer person in the mind of the person being hypnotized. This is where the art of Video hypnosis comes into hand. It helps to achieve hypnosis with the help of visual suggestion. The hypnosis weight loss program may then continue by the hypnotist talking about food you eat, and also associating pleasant things with healthy varieties of food, and a less desirable feeling with unhealthy foods. Similarly, in order to discourage smoking, many people undergo hypnosis. In this process as well, unpleasant sensations are associated with smoking, which ultimately discourages the patient from indulging in smoking. Treatment of smoking and weight loss are subjects in which hypnosis is gaining a lot of acclaim and acceptance.
But it is quite a daunting task to find a professionally trained hypnotist, in whom people can place their trust. After all, hypnosis isn’t child’s play and requires considerable skill and expertise. This is exactly where the demand for video hypnosis comes into play. Imagine a situation where you can be hypnotized tonight, sitting in your very own living room? This was unimaginable a couple of years back. But with the growth of television, DVDS and the Internet, hypnosis via video is gaining ground and more and more people are resorting to it. Be it for getting rid of a troublesome habit or for plain relaxation, video based hypnosis is gradually becoming more famous and widely accepted than ever before.
With video hypnosis, now you can allow a professional hypnotist into your home and head, cheaply and privately as well. It helps you to reorganize your inner self in order to make a more productive and happy life. Video hypnosis is like getting hypnotized by a real hypnotist, except that it is not interactive, and also pre recorded. The hypnotist in the video deploys a large variety of illusions and hypnosis scripts in order to soothe you or train your mind with.
How Video Hypnosis Works
Video hypnosis works by re-organizing and rearranging your thoughts and ideas. The video also makes suggestions so as to create new ideas in your subconscious, which you can later implement in your life. There are other forms of pre recorded audio hypnosis mp3s as well, but video hypnosis seems to be more effective as it uses visual suggestions. It also puts a face and tangible dimension to the suggestions made, and hence makes the hypnosis session more productive.
Video hypnosis is a great way to sit back and relax. You can grab a cup of coffee and sit back and enjoy hypnosis on a DVD. Video hypnosis is the most powerful way to perform hypnosis without actually interacting with a hypnotist. It is also safer than real time hypnosis, as the video is pre recorded and the Hypnotists cannot include suggestions at will. Some of these suggestions might get misinterpreted by the patient, and the entire therapy may backfire. Hence in every way, video hypnosis is safer and much easier than conventional hypnosis.
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June 3rd, 2009 by aaks
Are you aware of how powerful Voice Power is? It is also referred to as voice hypnosis. Many people in the world use hypnosis as a way to overcome their phobias, get past problems in their lives, and quit bad habits when they have found every other way to be a failure. The most important thing to know about hypnosis is the care that the hypnotist uses in their voice and their voice pattern during sessions.
It does not matter if you are listening to a recording of a hypnotist or one in person, the effects of their voice are important when doing voice hypnosis. Hypnotists have to make sure that their voice stays soft, calm and soothing. A hypnotist also needs to take care to speak slowly. They don’t want anything too pitchy or animated because it will distract from the hypnosis itself. The last thing the hypnotist wants to do is leave the person being hypnotized feeling jumpy or on edge.
Voice Hypnosis is about Talking to the Person
Some hypnotists are worried less about how the message gets there and more about the message, but personally in my opinion voice hypnosis is about both the message and the delivery to the person being hypnotized. The formula really boils down to talking to the person. During voice hypnosis, the hypnotist drops his or her voice to a low pitch and slows their wording down. The delivery is the same as if they are recording for their self-hypnosis audio recording. The voice hypnotist stays with the person all the while staying calm and speaking in a smooth, calm manner to get them to a state of mind where they are in a deeply relaxed, calm, hypnotic state.
The soothing voice is very important. The hypnotist doesn’t want to make the mistake of sounding like an authority figure or like someone with a power complex. During most times of voice hypnosis, gentle suggestions and weakly worded messages are said. Now specific words that require to be accented are because they carry vital messages with them, or have a special meaning attached to them. This is called an embedded command in voice hypnosis. Great hypnotists will pause after any embedded commands, to emphasize their importance.
A commanding voice is a bit too much like what our parents sounded like, and may reverse the effect of the voice hypnosis. When the person is listening to a hypnotist with a soft, calm and soothing voice it is easier to gain all of the benefits trying to be reached.
There are a number of reasons why you may choose to go to a hypnotist for voice hypnosis. You can go to a voice hypnotist to raise your self-confidence. If you have been trying to stop smoking with the patch, going cold turkey, with the gum or other ways, then you can always use voice hypnosis to stop smoking now! Weight loss hypnosis is available for people that want to use hypnosis to lose weight. Many other phobias and problems can use voice hypnosis as a solution; such as anger management, depression, anxiety, self-esteem, alcoholism, public speaking and insomnia.
Voice hypnosis is a wonderfully relaxing way to get over these areas of frustration in your life and finally find a solution in a non-threatening, calm, soothing way.
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June 3rd, 2009 by aaks
Do you know what one of the hardest things to accomplish in this world is? It’s changing a person’s mind or opinion about a topic. Yes…that’s the hardest thing to do in this world. So how do so many people get their way in this world? It can′t all be charisma, and good looks. No it isn′t, a lot of people seem to just have a knack for getting people to listen, but doesn′t every one want such abilities? Don′t worry, and don′t listen to nay Sayers that say that it’s impossible, and that it’s immoral. People have been using this technique for years. So how do they do it? Using visual persuasion with hypnosis is one way that so many people get their way in this world.
What is Visual Persuasion using Hypnosis?
Visual persuasion with hypnosis, no it’s not subliminal messaging or something unethical like that. It’s just a simple way of using visual cues and pictures to get a person’s attention in subtle ways. Haven’t you always wondered how that co-worker with a seemingly lackluster PowerPoint presentation got the project, a raise and then a promotion? Or your best bud who always seems to pull the finest ladies at the club even though he isn’t the most handsome guy in the bunch? It’s simple really, thanks to their inherent knowledge of visual persuasion with hypnosis they know the exact “look” needed to turn heads and mesmerize others.
Bill Clinton was a master at using visual persuasion with hypnosis to get what he wanted. Even though he is no longer President many women still find him irresistible! So how does Bill Clinton do it? He combined everything from his looks, to his personality, to his very way of speaking to charm and mesmerize others. By using visual persuasion first he looks for the people who pay him the most attention due to how he presents himself in a crowd. His smile simply hypnotizes any woman he sets his eyes on. His visual persuasion technique makes the women see a confident strong man. They convince themselves in an instant that he is a man they should be interested in before he even says a word.
You see…when you use visual persuasion with hypnosis techniques you override the person’s natural mental blocks, but most of all you give them an image that they truly want to see in every person they look at. Think about it some more. Christopher George Latore Wallace, the rapper commonly knows as The Notorious B.I.G., seemed to have a way with the ladies as well, even though from pictures and his own admittance he was not the most handsome of men. In fact many said he was downright homely. Yet he had a way with ladies. He could convince any woman that he was the one for them. How could he do such a thing? By using visual persuasion with hypnosis techniques he could always get the woman he set his eyes on.
Using visual persuasion with hypnosis techniques is for everyone, just be ready to learn and spend some time learning how to harness this unique but common skill to make your life better.
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June 3rd, 2009 by aaks
The idea of being able to persuade people in order to be successful is not new. It is well known that many very wealthy individuals seem to have special powers of persuasion. Maybe they were born with this skill. However, there is a way to be as good or even better than them. Wealth and prosperity by hypnosis is becoming a reality for those who are lucky enough to find out about it. Most who do, find out by chance. This is because the best hypnotists are few and far between. There has also been a kind of a conspiracy to keep this technique a secret. It doesn’t seem fair that wealth and prosperity by hypnosis would be kept from us. Do you really think if hypnosis didn’t work that it would be kept away from the general public? Of course not, it works and that is why there are people working hard to stop us from getting this information.
Get Results - Wealth and Prosperity by Hypnosis
Wealth and prosperity by hypnosis all comes down to learning a specific technique. This is called conversational hypnosis or covert hypnosis. The people around you won’t even be aware that you have this kind of control. Think about it. How do you get what you want? You get it when others agree with you. Conversational hypnosis is used to influence others to agree with you. When it comes to wealth and prosperity by hypnosis you will see results a lot sooner than you expect. This is because you can start using this method almost immediately. Pretty soon you will have people eating out of your hand. It’s not a party trick. It is an actual technique based on how the human brain works. You will know exactly what to say and when to say it.
This technique is so simple and easy it’s hard to believe we weren′t taught how to do it years ago. Fortunately it’s never too late to start to get wealth and prosperity by hypnosis. There are courses available. Make sure you choose a course that is considered the best. It can only be the best if the person providing the training and information is the best. If you are serious about getting wealth and prosperity by hypnosis it only makes sense to insist on an expert who is actually recognized. If not, how can you be certain what are learning is going to work? If your information is accurate you will soon see positive results.
A person who is able to influence others is seen as popular and successful. Everybody wants to be around a person who seems to have the ‘Midas touch’. People on the outside will be aware you are getting what you want, but they won′t be able to figure it out. This is because the technique you use for wealth and prosperity by hypnosis is not intrusive. All you are doing is persuading others, you are not forcing them to do anything against their will. They will be only too happy to agree with you.
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June 3rd, 2009 by aaks
Hypnosis has been defined in different ways, but we will refer to the definition of the American Psychological Association which states that hypnosis is a procedure done on a person by a hypnotist or hypno-therapist. However, there are many people who wonder about the ways to use hypnosis in everyday life. The subject acts on the suggestions given by the hypnotist. Another school of thought suggests that hypnosis is not a state of deep sleep, but one of altered consciousness. The hypnotic state is like meditation where the body is completely relaxed, but receptive to suggestions. Though everyone can be hypnotized, each person’s level of hypnosis differs. While one person may be totally open to suggestions, another person may not be completely hypnotized due to preconceived notions or fears.
Hypnosis is recognized and used as a therapy in many parts of the world to cure a host of diseases. Hypnosis is being used in the treatment of neurological disorders like phobias, depression, and habit disorders. It has found a place in medicine and surgery. People have found ways to use hypnosis even in the field of sports and entertainment.
Hypnosis in Medicine: Hypnosis has been used in the field of medicine in the treatment of various ailments. Recent developments in hypnosis have revealed that the power of hypnosis does not lie in the therapist, but in the hands of the subject themselves. Hypnosis is also being used in surgery, childbirth, and other childbirth related stress management. Doctors have found ways to use hypnosis effectively for asthma patients. The use of hypnosis has resulted in repulsing asthmatic attacks.
Weight Hypnosis: Hypnosis has been used for weight management and effective fat reduction. Many people have tried weight reduction the conventional way, but found that they were not very successful. The modern ways to use hypnosis by suggestion, in weight reduction, has proved to be extremely effective. Hypnosis tries to go to the root of the problem and then offers suggestions to the subconscious of the individual for effective weight management.
Say no to smoking and drugs: Hypnosis is a very effective method of stopping smoking compared to conventional methods. You will be happy to find that you do not have to make any conscious effort to stop smoking. Hypnosis is extremely useful for people who would like to kick the habit of drugs. The mind listens to the suggestions given by the hypnotist which works wonders on the subject.
Pain Management: New ways to use hypnosis are being used today to expand the pain threshold so that the patients are able to withstand more pain without actually feeling it. The mind of the patient is distracted from pain and made to focus somewhere else, and thus the extent of pain is vastly reduced. Gynecologists are using hypnosis to help women undergo painless labor and childbirth. Hypnosis is now being effectively used to treat migraine headaches and people suffering from the headache are now rid of the pain.
Relax: Do you find relaxation difficult, or do you find it impossible to get to sleep? Do not worry - there are some more ways to use hypnosis to get you to relax. Hypnosis helps the mind to relax and before you know it, you are in the land of nod. You will also find that twenty to thirty minutes of relaxation achieved through hypnosis is enough to keep you charged for the whole day.
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June 3rd, 2009 by aaks
If you look carefully past the current problems you are experiencing, deeper into the reasons for your present day difficulties; you will most likely find that the root cause has something to do with the way you feel about yourself - your self esteem. This base human problem is something that most of us feel at some point or another in our lives, but when nothing is done to correct negative self esteem, that is when other problems begin to emerge. A great way to help overcome these problems is to improve self esteem with hypnosis.
If you are 40 pounds overweight and just can’t seem to lose the weight no matter what you do, the real problem may not be your eating, but how you feel about yourself. Anxiety in many forms such as test anxiety, public speaking, and performance, usually stem from how a person feels about themselves and their belief in their own abilities. Smoking, depression, drugs and alcohol abuse problems can usually be traced back to self esteem issues, often extensions of childhood experiences.
All the negative experiences in your life begin to add up in a cumulative manner until your subconscious mind is filled with a negative view on literally everything in life. Now you are really having problems and nothing you do seems to work. Why? This is because you are fulfilling the negative programming that is in your subconscious mind to fail. Your mind has firmly planted the idea that you are not worthy to succeed, and so you don’t. It was Henry Ford who said “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” And that, my friend, is the basis for finding ways to improve self esteem with hypnosis.
Why Use Hypnosis?
It has been said that it takes at least 10 positive things to overcome 1 negative. The way to improve self esteem with hypnosis, and the reason it works so well, is that hypnosis allows easier and more direct access to the subconscious where all your negative programming or thoughts are stored. In order to improve self esteem with hypnosis, you need to replace the negative view that has been stuck in there for years with a positive, confident, and productive view of yourself. Hypnosis is the transport system for the positive affirmations, and gives a direct access to the root of the problem. In other words, you could change your self image without hypnosis, but it would take a much longer time to do it.
There are several ways to improve self esteem with hypnosis, and seeking out a professional hypnotherapist is certainly a good way to start. A good hypnotherapist can help you identify the root causes for your negative self esteem and design a program that can target your specific issues.
Another very effective way to improve self esteem with hypnosis is through the use of self hypnosis. Often, a hypnotherapist will teach you how to use self hypnosis to continue and reinforce your therapy at home, but there are sources available to be able to do it yourself. Finding the best way to improve self esteem with hypnosis can be the best way to permanently change your life.
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June 2nd, 2009 by aaks
Understanding Alcoholism and Drug Addiction
Why don’t people who stop, stay stopped?
Throughout these writings I will use references to the 12 steps and most likely say things like “we admitted we were alcoholics″. Just replace the words, alcoholics or drug addicts, with whatever you know to be appropriate to you. The beauty of the 12 step inventory process is that it is based on some sound universal principles. Which means that it works with any and all problems we may find ourselves in.
The AA text doesn’t start out with the how it works chapter and step one. It does no good to sit with someone and admit you are something that you don’t comprehend. Some of you may, at this point, disagree. You say that it’s a good thing, that any willingness to change is a step in the right direction. After all not everyone had a perfect understanding of their problem at first, and some made it. I can only answer by saying, that’s right, some did: most don’t. Most people, no matter what they are doing, have no problem quitting when the pain becomes too much. If quitting was success all addicts would have a perfect success rating. And then some. Lots of people confess, because someone tells them that its the thing to do. People in pain do it hoping the pain will end. It’s essential to find those “keys to recovery″ that enable some people to stay quit. Those key ingredients for staying on the path and becoming happy and usefully whole. Confessing might, arguably, be good for the soul but it won’t solve the problems we face. Admitting you are this or that does not get people, or keep people, sober. So what does?
Before we start on the steps, and the self examination that comes with it, we should come to understand, as fully as possible, that the primary problem is having a disease. Lets look at the disease this way. Lets say that we have a disease that causes us to become addicted to stuff. Lets, for now, say that our disease is not that we are addicted to gambling, sex or drugs. Let’s say that these are symptoms of our disease. If I had a weak immune system. Whatever the reason. Maybe I am not able to have a diet that supplies me with what I need for a strong immune system. This results in a constant irritation in my nose. The mucous membrane is the first line of defense in the immune system. Where is my disease? People would say, “he’s got that nose thing”. I could get prescriptions, nose remedies. Is that what I need? If we want to get better and stay better, for the rest of our lives. If we want to really deal with every aspect of our lives, we’ll want to get right to the source. Alcoholism and drug addiction are looked at as chronic diseases. What about an addiction to worrying? Let’s for the rest of this reading break the word up like the holistic practices do and think dis-ease. That’s where the word came from so why not let it be what it is? This fixation with symptoms can be the first thing we remove from our brain. Next we must be convinced that if this dis-ease is not treated then a deeper suffering will follow. Of all this we need be convinced. This high degree of awareness will allow for continued progress. Is that what we want? Most likely, at this point, we just want to stop suffering. There’s nothing wrong with that. The symptoms are telling us to pay attention.
So lets look at the symptoms. No matter what they are. We should decide if they are chronic.
Definition of Chronic
Chronic: This important term in medicine comes from the Greek chronos, time and means lasting a long time.
A chronic condition is one lasting 3 months or more, by the definition of the U.S. National Center for Health Statistics. In ancient Greece, the “father of medicine” Hippocrates distinguished diseases that were acute (abrupt, sharp and brief) from those that were chronic. This is still a very useful distinction. Subacute has been coined to designate the mid-ground between acute and chronic.
Being convinced is of prime importance and therefore should be seen as one of the keys to recovery.
To cap off the being convinced aspect I’ll make this suggestion. I “am convinced″ that the best way to look at our addictions is to treat them like allergies. It’s not necessary to our recovery that we understand all the biological, psychological and neurological aspects of our condition. It doesn’t hurt, but it’s not a requirement. I knew a girl who was allergic to peanuts. If she ate peanuts the least that would happen is she would be very uncomfortable. The worst that could happen is she would die. She didn’t get close to peanuts. She never considered tested the condition to see if she still had it. Her relationship with peanuts was decided. No matter what we are addicted to, if we treat it as an allergy we will be on the right path. My friend was also alcoholic. I did my best for her. But she died as a result of alcoholism. I never thought about the allergy comparison when we talked. But this I’m sure of, if she had treated alcohol like she treated peanuts, she could not have died from the effects of alcohol.
If we can get it through our heads, be convinced, that we are allergic to alcohol. If we’re convinced, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we will at least suffer discomfort from ingesting it and at worst die, would we be apt to pick up a drink? It’s easy to see how anyone allergic to peanuts would have to be insane to decide to eat peanuts. It’s no different with alcohol. Or gambling. People addicted to gambling don’t stop from a sane examination of their actions. They stop when the pain and destruction become to great to bear. So the same rules apply. They have an allergic type reaction to the thought of winning a pot. Don’t they? As we go along, as we learn more about the brain, this will become more and more clear. It all boils down the brain chemistry. For now if we can just start to say, “I am allergic to… “.
It was only this being convinced of the chronic nature of my condition, my allergy, that really made me willing to take action. I went out and ask someone to make sure I did the steps the way they were laid out in the book. I knew I was great at cheating and convincing myself of the okay-ness in any wrong doing. That pattern went so far as to allow me to be OK with things I couldn’t accept as OK. Boy did that come in handy. It’s a common thing that we addicts become adapted to whatever condition our behavior presents to us. The most atrocious circumstances become acceptable. So I made a decision to go through the same process that the sober people had claimed to go through. It’s very likely that if I’d had an ounce of energy left, if I had even the glimmer of an idea of something else to do, I wouldn’t have got started on the process at all. We’ll never know but that was certainly my habitual pattern: “thanks but I’ll manage”. Also being beat half to death mentally and physically kept me still long enough to get the allergy concept.
At this point I hadn′t really started to find out anything about myself. I hadn′t started on an inventory. I did however start to establish some disciplines. Early on I took up the practice of meditation. This wasn′t because I reasoned it would be best for me and the rest of humanity. I did it because my brain was driving me nuts and I had to do something about it. Meditation was the only thing I could think of. I recalled the claim that it could bring stillness to the mind. I had read about meditation but never seriously practiced it. I just desperately needed to escape my thoughts and meditation was the recommended way. It’s also included as part of the twelve step process. At some point I ask some power greater than myself, that might exist in some state, somewhere, to direct me to what was best. Again this was no altruistic act, I just wanted to stay out of trouble. So only by default did I follow the meditation and prayer step suggested in the book. I also tried to get, at least, in a conversational relationship with people who had spent a substantial period of time sober. When I had questions about how to deal with some issue I followed suggestions from these people.
I had a new found willingness to cooperate. I came by this as a result of “being convinced” that I would never get rid of my symptoms on my own. Through this process of acceptance and honest self examination I became convinced of other things about myself. I accepted, on observations others made, that I was insane. That people looked at me and said, “this man is truly insane”. One of the insane activities I participated in was a completely disproportionate emotional reaction to people and situations. That’s way to glamorous a description: I acted like a child. So now I know I have a disease: I’m not clear what it is, but I’m convinced of it’s chronic nature. I know that if I’m to get better I have to practice, incorporate into my life, a set of spiritual principles. So I’m a big insane baby with a disease. It was, in part, the embarrassment and humiliation that accompanied these truths (more pain) that motivated me to further action. I don’t think that people will suffer the pain of change without being convinced of the necessity. This is true with all people and their respective trials. My personal reaction to trauma manifested into alcoholism and drug addiction. The global fiasco we see everyday is also a response to trauma. Wars, hatred, greed, most societies, everything you see that isn’t working comes out of a reaction to trauma. The trauma occurs when real people attempt to live in a make believe world. It’s universally dysfunctional. But for now let’s focus on personal addictions. With addictions and chronic habitual patterns the willingness to change comes when the pain of change is out weighed by the pain of staying the same. Some folks are far easier convinced. Most simply go on to the gates of insanity and death.
Doug Wilson: Has recovered from a 35+ year Heroin and Alcohol addiction. He is helping people through his first hand experience and a life time of looking at what makes people tick ~ Addiction Help
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June 2nd, 2009 by aaks
If you decide to refinance or purchase a new home, you will be required to sign a set of disclosures in order to begin the mortgage process.You can find more information at Denver Mortgage This set of documents will include the Truth in Lending disclosure, the Good Faith Estimate, the credit report disclosure, and many more. These documents allow the mortgage broker to gather sensitive information such as employment history, credit reports, bank statements, income documents, and more. When all the disclosures are signed, the loan process can begin, and the bank or broker will request sensitive information from you and submit your loan application to the lender. If your application is approved, you will receive a conditional approval with a set of conditions that need to be procured in order to receive loan documents. These are called “prior to document” conditions, or PTDs, because they must be satisfied before loan documents can be sent to title/escrow. Some other documents obtained by your lender from third parties. Those would include credit report an appraisal, and perhaps an inspection report, termite inspection report, survey, title opinion, and other documents that prove to the lender l) that you are credit worthy; 2) that the value of the property is sufficient to support the loan; 3) that the property is in acceptable condition; and 4) there aren’t problems with the title/ownership to the property. There are other documents that will be used in connection with your home loan application. The first category includes documents that you will fill out. These will be provided by the lender. They include the application itself, a document that attests to the fact that you did not borrow your down payment consent to credit check, and perhaps some other miscellaneous documents required by a particular lender. Latest 2 years tax returns Latest 2 pay stubs Insurance agent name and number Latest 2 months bank statements if you can have these items handy this will give you a great head start on the process.
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