January 24th, 2008 by aaks
Who will I be when I grow up? Many of us kind of bumble along in life, going with the flow, without firm plans or goals. Others have a clearly delineated pathway from an early age. There’s no right or wrong way to do this. We need to find the right balance for us between being totally driven on the one hand, and aimless on the other.
In The Law of Attraction Abraham says that we will experience positive emotions whenever we recognize our growth and negative emotions when we are feeling stagnation. Many psychologists are now looking at the role of goals in their research and clinical work with clients.
I have had the privilege of both consulting and being trained by Dr. Lee Pulos, an expert on performance and motivation. In his on-line interview with the Intuition Network Lee speaks of a study with patients in a convalescent facility. One group of patients was given responsibility for the houseplant in their room, and the other group was told not to concern themselves with it, the staff would look after it. The group without the simple goal of plant care died within the expected time frame of eighteen months, while the other group lived almost twice as long. So the message, Dr. Pulos says, is that we feel more empowered when we have a goal, a vision in our lives.
During my perimenopausal years I didn’t have an action goal per se. Stillness was the place I resided in. Every woman has her own unique way of transitioning through this stage of life. My way seemed to be about waiting, about living from day to day, moment to moment. I sensed that something profound was going on deep inside me; I had no idea what it was. My physical energy levels were low.
My doctor of Chinese Medicine told me that my kidney energy was quite low, and in Chinese medicine all the other systems rest on the kidney system. He encouraged me to rest. I did that, in spades. I think the profound ‘circuitry re-wiring’ going on within me that Northrup speaks of was leading me to a new sense of self. Perhaps it was no accident that my physical energy was low; I needed the stillness to develop into the woman I was becoming.
Now goals and visioning are a way of life for me. I feel an enormous sense of possibility since beginning my North Star coaching journey with Dr. Martha Beck almost three years ago. Despite my daily challenges with my limiting beliefs, I am steadily moving forward in my life. I’m giving myself permission to know and act on my yearnings. My life is beginning to reflect my dreams and visions.
So try this: Get yourself in the flow with breath work, dancing or exercise. Then ask yourself: “what do I yearn for?” Listen carefully to the answers without monitoring. Now you have your jumping-off point, your goal.
Copyright Ellen Besso 2007
Through her ‘Odyssey of Change’ coaching program, Ellen Besso offers Midlife Women the opportunity to navigate the midlife maze and find joy & fullness in their lives.
Personal action plans include strengthening the body-mind connection; releasing beliefs that limit growth; & specific actions to move you forward into your ideal life.
Ellen is uniquely qualified to be your guide because she has personally journeyed through perimenopause and into an inspired life as a menopausal crone! Her professional credentials include certification as a Martha Beck Coach and an M.A. in Counseling from City University.
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October 10th, 2007 by aaks
THE LAWS OF LIFE: Twenty-One Universal Laws and Spiritual Truths” (from Inspirational Books)
“Our minds can shape the way a thing will be, because we act according to our expectations …and that’s why it shapes our reality.”
INTRODUCTION:
Submitter’s Note: Just sharing a few thoughts as I research, study and write about the human mind, spiritual principles and the Laws of Life. This article is largely based upon a chapter, “Universal Laws and Truth” from the fascinating and thought-provoking book, “The Way of the Warrior Trader” by Dr Richard D. McCall.
I believe, If we can understand these “facts of life”, anyone WILL overcome negative and consequently disabling emotions, so you can achieve your full potential in life. So this is my reason for sharing (as well as “formalising, clarifying, imprinting and manifesting” these principles and thoughts - ‘wise’ in my “top two inches”, as I do it), together with some additional points and input of my own)…
Now after that long “intro”, I’ll share the concepts mentioned in this work with you (whew, at long last!)…
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Here are the Twenty Universal (and Spiritual) Laws,
which I believe, are applicable in ALL areas of our lives:
1. First is the Law of ATTRACTION: When you are well grounded in your life purpose, have clarity for what you desire most, and are focused on your specific needs, the Universe (God/Life Force/Infinite Spirit) will come to your aid. People who spend time each day getting clear on what it is that they want, always will be able to get what they want.
2. The second principle is the Law of CONNECTION:
I believe every ‘body’ on this planet is connected in the spiritual realm. We are all spiritual beings on an earthly existence. Because we humans have the power of intellectualisation , rationality and especially in the immense power of choices - to act, to elevate our thinking and so choose our level of consciousness, which will determine our ultimate destinies. And we activate our spiritual connection through service to others, a sense of gratitude (or an attitude of abundance and especially grace), and a shared humanity.
3. The third principle is based on the Law of SOWING AND REAPING: In more modern everyday language, this may also be known as the LAW OF CAUSE AND EFFECT (as postulated by the Greek philosopher, Socrates). First you must give, and then you will receive. The farmer plants the seed and then reaps the rich harvest.
The Law of Attraction is also closely related to the LAW OF GRATITUDE: Have an ‘attitude of gratitude’ and you’ll be richly blessed.
4 The Law of DUALITY (or CONTRASTS):
There is a flip side or opposite of everything. Every negative has a positive (and is accentuatated - big word - by the contrast). For instance, you can only know good, if there is evil. Light can only exist with the darkness. Good luck can only exist, if there is such a thing as having experienced bad luck. And to experience success you must know failure. Even severe adversity can have some benefit, if we adopt a positive attitude and grow from the experience. We can perhaps use our bitter experiences of the deepest hurts to help others.
Perhaps our dark times (the “dark night of the soul”) are there so that we can really find joy in the bright days.
5 The Law of CYCLES:
All events occur in cycles. Professional athletes and cricketers (or baseballers for you Americans) might refer to the law of cycles as streaks (”hot”).
In accepting the law of cycles, we must know how to make the most of the good streaks. And when times are bad, keep your head up and look ahead expectantly to the upcoming reversal of fortune.
6 The Law of EVOLUTION and CHANGE:
Everything evolves and changes (as pressures and the sands of life shift over time) - the ebbs and flows of life. So it is up to you to ensure you progress and move ahead; as what were once huge obstacles get, “seemingly miraculously” removed..
7 The Law of CHOICES:
The greatest aspect of the human condition, I believe is our freedom: a freedom to make choices in life: regarding where to live, occupation, how we spend our time, our leisure pursuits, who to marry, and so on. Each one of us has absolute control over the multitude of choices we make each day …and our possibilities are unlimitëd. Stop feeling trapped by your circumstances, as you are not a victim of life. If you are feeling “negatively stuck in the deep brown stuff”, make the decision to change your life and choose a brand new future. Consequently YOU have the power and freedom to control your destiny.
Linked to the above Law of Choices is:
8 The Law of RESPONSIBILITY:
You must accept the full outcomes for the various decisions (choices) you make daily.
9 The Law of INERTIA:
In physics the law of inertia states that: “An object at rest tends to stay at rest.” This law is true of life as well. Action gets momentum going! The longer you procrastinate on completing that project, the longer you go without acting, the harder it will be to get started.
10 The Law of MOMENTUM:
“An object in motion tends to stay in motion.” This second law of physics is again a reality of life. Once you get started, it is easier to keep going and make progress. After the decision has been made, one tiny first step gets the momentum going. You probably notice the effect of this law in action every day. Once you get out of bed (for me the hardest part) and into the showër (warm, I trust!), getting dressed, having “brekkie’ and even going out the door to work (’clean and shiny’) is ‘a breeze’.
Done often enough (usually 21X ‘they’ say), an action becomes an ingrained HABIT… and good habits lead to good results and good living.
“The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.”
- ancient Chinese saying
11 The Law of SYNCHRONICITY (otherwise known as “CO-INCIDENCES” *):
* I prefer to call it ‘divine order’.
This principle is closely aligned with no 1: The Law of Attraction.
You are part of the universe, not a separate entity.
We humans are all connected to a common humanity. Your actions affect those around you and determine how your life is shaped. It is important to recognize that you are inseparable from the events and situations in your life. When you see your connection to the world around you, you understand the control you have over your destiny.
N.B:
12 The Law of MANIFESTATION:
Life is like a mirror - what you put out, you’ll get back even more. Put out positive energy (vibrations) and you’ll attact positive results. (This too is closely aligned with Law One: the Law of Attraction).
You become what you think about the most (”then why aren’t I a woman!”). Our thoughts shape our reality; so we need to learn how to SHAPE our thoughts, as the potter moulds the clay. Consequently, as the old saying goes, “Be careful what you wish for - you’ll probably get it!”
“We are what we think.
All that we are arises
With our thoughts.
With our thoughts,
We make our world.”
- the Buddha
“It’s not what you think you are,
but what you THINK, you ARE.”
- minister Norman Vincent Peale, the father of the concept ‘The Power of Positive Thinking’
“Man is mind
and evermore he takes the tool of thought
and, shaping what he wills,
brings forth a thousand joys,
a thousand ills.
He thinks in secret
and it comes to pass -
Environment is but his looking glass.”
- anon
Thanks so much for sharing, dad
13 (”Lucky”) The Law of EXPECTATION (POSITIVE):
Always expect a favourable outcome - the best from your actions in whatever you undertake. Be an optomist seeing the glass as “half full” in all your endeavours!
14. The Law of INTENTION (good)
Do things in the right “heart and spirit” with a genuine desire (intent) of some action(s) to make some small difference in the world, otherwise sharing ideas to help others …and you can’t go wrong. (My reason for sharing this piece - “oh no, not another article from you, Craig!”)
N.B.
15 The Law of PROCESS AND ACTION:
Spend more time in planning and setting goals. Then spend quiet times in reflection and contemplation to review and monitor your progress. Are you moving ahead, or do you perhaps need to “change tack” (strategy).
Manifesting what we want out of life still requires action and planning. Ask, trust, and allow the Universe’s Infinite
Wisdom to send you the answers on what to do to attain our deepest desires.
BALANCE thought with decision, which leads to ACTION. Because, if you are going to move ahead in life and make the most of your potential, rather than just ponder possibilities, you will need to take some practical steps, ie. actually DO something, “Mr/Mrs/Ms Dreamer”. You have to undergo the process of taking your desired goals and breaking them down into manageable parts. Plan appropriately and follow through - then through taking action on each step, it IS definitely possible to attain even your “wildest” dreams or destination.
16 The Law of HABIT:
Good habits maketh man and woman.
“Try not to become a person of success but rather try to become a person of value.
- Einstein
17. The Laws of COMMITMENT and PERSISTENCE:
When one commits fully to an endeavour, “body, heart and soul”, nothing can stop you. The moment one commits fully to an enterprise, all the mysterious forces of the Universe, God, Providence, Life Force moves too - in bringing all the threads even the “tangled” ones) together, so that your most earnest desires WILL one day come to pass..
18. The Law of COMMAND:
“Thou shalt deem a thing and it shall be so.”
The words we use to ourselves are vital in shaping our attitudes (mindsets). So be careful what you say to yourself (especially negative self talk/chatter) ; as it might just happen - it usually does! “Speak” desired events, ocurrences and outcomes “into existence”.
and most importantly (saving the best for last)
19. The LAW (POWER) of BELIEF:
“All things are possible to him who believes.”
- Mark 9:23
Now for a few personal thoughts on “spiritual matters” (note this is NOT religion, as I sincerely believe dogmatic and fanatical religion divides humanity and is the cause of so much conflict).
Jesus Christ understood perfectly human nature (the human condition) and the above-mentioned principles of the mind - even 2000 years ago! The teachings of Christ were psychologically correct and violate no psychological laws, though original in concept and spirit. Jesus possessed a wealth of wisdom in dealing with people’s day-to-day, as well as their spiritual problems. He knew the deepest recesses of the human heart: “He knew what was in man.” The very best psychiatrist!
So
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BELIEVE in the tremendous power of BELIEF (ie. certainty): in the form of your thoughts and imagination. Use these incredible mental tools to your advantage through your amazing human mind. Sow positive energy and you’ll reap positive results. If you think your life will be exciting and fulfilling, you WILL make it a reality.
“Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you HAVE received it and it will be yours.”
- Mark 11:24
I believe there is a spiritual solution to any problem on this planet. One just has to think “outside the square”, on another level, at/in a “higher dimension”.. . then one’s whole perspective changes.
When stuck on what particular action to take, ASK, TRUST, and allow the Universe’s Infinite Wisdom to send you the answers through the amazing power of your subconscious mind, our “doorway to God, the Ultimate Source”.
and finally, the two most powerful forces in the world…
20. THE LAW OF CREATION: God is a God of Creation, which is why we’ve all been blessed with the amazing power of the human imagination (the way, I believe we “get divine answers from “another realm”, a Higher Power. We ALL have FREE WILL: the choice to BELIEVE, or not: the FAITH to believe that your deepest desires and even wildest dreams can and WILL happen if you can just have enough FAITH.
Lastly,
N.B: THE LAW OF LOVE: It really works! Give love and you receive back far more..
The above principles, I believe, are in perfect alignment with the laws of physics and human psychology (the spiritual is just another (and ‘higher’) realm or dimension in which they operate). I sincerely hope these Truths (eternal) motivate, uplift and perhaps even inspire you to move ahead and achieve great success: To be all you can be and become… in your business, or whatever endeavours you may choose to embark on in your life.
Have FUN and BE happy as you “ride down the rapids of life”
Craig Lock (”Motivational Counsellor and Incorrigible Encourager”)
http://www.craigloc kbooks.com
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October 10th, 2007 by aaks
DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE’S MISSION (FROM THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW)
This article (in point form) was based upon notes I’ve taken from Oprah Winfrey’s most uplifting TV program from some years back. I hope that it may be encouraging, uplifting and perhaps even inspirational to you in following the unique path you were “destined” to travel. Enjoy…
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How can you find true happiness? Ask yourself: wherever you are in your life, how would you like to be remembered? Are you truly happy? Has your life turned out the way you wanted? If it all ended today, did you live the life you really wanted?
Do you drag yourself to a job you can’t stand. To see how far you have come in your life. Chart your way to success. Be there for those in need. Think good, positive thoughts.
What do you really want to do with the rest of your life? Write your obituary. Are you on target with why you came onto your life? What do you want written on your obituary? Discover your life’s mission. We all waste precious “planet time”. If you died today, what was your purpose in coming onto this earth?
I’m happy; but I want to do more. Love, kindness to family/friends, helping others, being there for those in need, having positive thoughts, a good spirit. Start small and try to be a good person. You can later make big changes in your life. Do you want to do more? Don’t we all. The key to misery is in trying too hard to please others - think of yourself first. Don’t get in touch what what you’re thinking and feeling. To be a better person - start small. Crazy life! Purpose is not the goal - it’s the pattern all along - there’s a pattern in all of our lives. Look beneath the purpose. What does love mean, if you don’t begin with yourself?
An author on the show wrote a book: What are you doing with the rest of your life? We are all half asleep - think life’s OK. Look at our whole lifespan. We grow and develop throughout most of our lifespan and the biggest growth usually occurs particularly in the middle years. Don’t think of dying. Death is euphemistically called “passing to the other side”. Earth was a “gas” (fun). We come from a mystery and go to mystery… and don’t know either end. Recognise what we really want to do in our lives. Look ahead 20, 30, 40 years. Check and know our TRUTH. We are finite - truth is all important. Take life seriously. Everone’s life has its own patterns, plateaus, pitfalls and rythm (adulthood unfolds over time).
Strive for inner peace…and this is not a matter of “missing the boat”.
In the nineteen-fiftys the sociologist Eric Ericson (nice sounding name - alliteration said there are three stages in life:
* early
* middle
and
* late
As adults we grow and change over our whole lifespan.
1. Early: We have a choice between intimacy and isolation (sounds just like an “analytical/ /intellectual” sociologist! ). We are forced to learn to focus in and be loyal to one person…and ourselves.
2. The middle stage: Here we have a choice between contribution and self absorbtion. ‘It happens when it happens.’ Reflect on life what changes. A common example: We derive little or no satisfaction after doing the same job for 15-20 years. This applies especially to us men. That’s when we buy a Ferrari for status and ego (and act young, of course!). It’s otherwise called the ‘middle age transition’. We tend to relect on our lives and ask ourselves: Where have I been and where do I want to go? Women have this feeling too - when the children are growing up, but (like us men “stuck in our careers”, they have to stay with their job - and can’t get a Ferrari! ‘What am I going to do now?’, we ask ourselves.
There is a choice between integrity and despair. We might feel good, even though we may have made many mistakes in the course of our lives. Especially me! We can’t change life and what’s past. What can I do? As long as you feel vital and alive - the vitaliy of mid-life. You could be a late bloomer, like me. (You could even have hit “the big five-o”. Act on your own feelings and intuition. Come out of the closet (yes, even you ‘queers’) and follow your heart. Who am I really? You can still do it…even at age 65!
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How do you put your life in order, if you had only one month to live? How would you live your life? With all the bills and worries. Instead of wasting life and walking blindly through life. What else could I have done? Wishing. How to start moving in the right direction. Recognise there’s a pattern to each of our lives and what part you’re in? There is always more. A lady on the show was diagnosed with terminal illness. She asked herself: ‘What could I impart to my son in the time I have left?’ Focus on the important things in life, instead of the trivial. Doing this makes you think differently about life. Eg. going to the movies, or going out to dinner. Like the lady, cherish the meaningful time on earth.
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“The souls choice” - in search of our inner calling.
Each of us comes into life with a calling. The journey of life is to discover that calling. At some time certain incidents lead to this calling. Ella Fitzgerald was a dancer and changed to start singing. Something happened to change her thinking. What’s your life script?
Our children have their OWN destiny. We all have a guardian angel - our higher self.
The journey to your unique destiny develops character. It will come out, no matter what you do - it is predetermined? ??, sooner or later. Understand your destiny. What am I really meant to do with my life?
The soul’s choice: Each person enters the world called - to do something with their life. It is not necessarily to be famous, like a rock star. Your child could be good at numbers and become an accountant. It may be just being a friend, or of service to society.
Children should find a place for their specific calling. Many people associate fame with achieving their purpose in life. I believe there is no higher calling than being a good parent.
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See life for what it really is; then celebrate it. Dying teaches us that we are finite beings.
The STEPS we should be taking: Take four sheets of paper and answer these questions:
* What do I want to DO?
* What do I want to BE? A PhD with 10 million dollars in the bank, perhaps?
* What do want to HAVE?
and most importantly,
* What do I want to GIVE?
in my years left on this planet?
Look at the stepping stones, the patterns of your life…from birth onwards, as they’ve shaped us to what we are now.
New birth in middle years.
Normally these patterns are in all of our lives. Ask yourself:
Why am I in this present situation? Who knows. God alone! Are you perhaps acting out a part; because of what others want/expect from you. Are you being judged by others??
A study showed that 90 of Americans believed that they would be happier with earning 10-20 more money.
(However; nobody could paint a dream).
Meditate frequently. What do I want to give to the world today? Thoughts. How do I want to be? Decide what kind of day you’ll have. We all have a choice. Do what you always do and you’ll get what you’ll always got. If you are stuck in a rut, it’s time to change. TIME TO CHANGE. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Love yourself for your uniqueness.
The patterns of being afraid. Like trying to please people all of the time - being a ‘people pleaser’. Throw out your self desires. What do you do to break it? Honour it. Fear is the “beacon to your truth”. Get in touch with the deepest lining of your heart, whether it is health, God or your personal goals. Ask yourself: “What am I afraid of?”. List your fears.
Then “knock them off” one by one. Realise by doing that they have no power - once you confront them, you’ll soon realise they have no fear. It’s often hard to accept joy, fear, rejection, people talking behind your back, others thinking you’re not a nice person. It hurts deeply; because you’re not in touch with your own feelings. If you are stuck in a rut and think your life is going nowhere…
Imagine you are 100 years old!
Women, the men in your life could be holding you back. You can devote your life to your profession.
The secrets to a healthy fulfilling life: Parents want only good, and usually the best for their children. Money is not ALL-important, but integrity is. Just do the best you
can; then hope and pray that other people will do the best they can.
Don’t think, “All ‘I’ and ‘me’”. The Almighty has the final say in how it (your life) all pans out. TRUST the Universe.
The housewife who won $6 million in a lottery. Did it make her happier?
Many people wanted to borrow money from her. Her marriage was wrecked. Now she wants to do something good and worthwhile with the money she won. She invested in a home for herself and her family. Money by itself doesn’t mean anything; so turn the energy produced by money into doing good in the world. Money is handy in that it pays the bills. However, money doesn’t change our spirit - it doesn’t make you a better person. Money can help alleviate (nice word) soul-destroying poverty, as well as producing soul-destroying wealth. Be rich intellectually, as well as spiritually (most important). Surveys have found
that 80 of people are unhappy in their jobs. Begin to give a little more to your job in terms of energy. Make small changes in your life at first.
Let the beauty of love be what you do (”do little things with great love”). Let life enrich you.
A few final words to summarise all that’s been written…
Aim for clarity in your thinking.
What do you want to BE/HAVE/GIVE in the years ahead?
Give a little more in your job. Take small steps to make your dream come true. How specific should it be? The people who had the greatest fulfillment believed in a Power Greater than themselves. Successful aging is a deeper truth. These people found meaning in that everything, every experience in life was valuable. Get your dream, really take hold of it.
Cherish it and make it happen.
Be happy
Craig Lock
“The task ahead of you can always be overcome by the power within
you…and the often seemingly difficult or even “impassible” ) path
ahead of you is never as steep with the great spirit that lies
within you.”
“We have it within; but we get it all from without. There is a well-spring of strength, wisdom, courage and great imagination
within each one of us; but once we draw on this truth, it gets watered from without, by a Higher Source - the Source of Life and Love, which is God, the very Ground of our Being.”
About the author:
Craig’s mission is to encourage people to believe in themselves and
help inspire people around the world to achieve their goals and dreams in life, whatever they may be.
http://www.craiglockbooks.com
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September 27th, 2007 by aaks
Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to better self improvement.
Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more.
No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you.
Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self improvement. What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy?
People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings. This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives.
There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.
For example, when you were a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another goldfish but the sorrow is still there.
Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander. On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables.
All this because that one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.
In this moment you will realize finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement.
That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally lose yourself in it.
Let us say you have a problem on your mind and it just would not go away. Go for a movie / Play Bowling / Pool with a friend. Just give it a shot.
Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.
A safe haven can take many forms. It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity.
You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.
When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to the safe place. Do not do it.
The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life’s problems, may it be a small or big. It serves only as an escape route.
You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved.
This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and you are on your way to better self improvement.
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September 27th, 2007 by aaks
Suprabhat With Geeta Saar
Shaloka in Sanskrit:
oka in Hindi
Shaloka in English
Whatever action is performed by a great man,
common men follow in his footsteps.
And whatever standards he sets by
exemplary acts, all the world pursues.
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September 7th, 2007 by aaks
Stop and ask yourself today, “How do I really feel about myself? “ Before you answer read these ten principles.
Better yet, keep them before you daily.
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(1) Never think or speak negatively about yourself; that puts you in disagreement with God.
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(2) Meditate on your God-given strengths and learn to encourage yourself, for much of the time nobody else will.
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(3) Don’t compare yourself to anybody else. You’re unique, one of a kind, an original. So don’t settle for being a copy.
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(4) Focus on your potential, not your limitations. Remember, God lives in you!
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(5) Find what you like to do, do well, and strive to do it with excellence.
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(6) Have the courage to be different. Be a God pleaser, not a people pleaser.
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(7) Learn to handle criticism. Let it develop you instead of discourage you.
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(8) Determine your own worth instead of letting others do it for you. They’ll short-change you!
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(9) Keep your shortcomings in perspective - you’re still a work in progress.
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(10) Focus daily on your greatest source of confidence - the God Who lives in you !
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September 1st, 2007 by aaks
Little Things
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Too often we don’t realize
what we have until it is gone;
Too often we wait too late to say
“I’m sorry - I was wrong.”
Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones
we hold dearest to our hearts;
And we allow foolish things
to tear our lives apart.
Far too many times we let
unimportant things into our minds;
And then it’s usually too late
to see what made us blind.
So be sure that you let people know
how much they mean to you;
Take that time to say the words
before your time is through.
Be sure that you appreciate
everything you’ve got
And be thankful for the
little things in life
that mean a lot.
Remind your friends to appreciate the little
things in life! Pass this on! |
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September 1st, 2007 by aaks
TRUST
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, “Public Utilities Board.” There was silence. She repeated, “PUB.” There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady’s voice, “Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband’s pocket but I do not know whose number it is.”
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just “hello” instead of “PUB”.
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?”
The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you.”
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested “I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.” The SDU officer said, “Your requirements, please.” “Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.” The officer listened carefully and replied, “I understand you need television.”
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.”
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,”Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered ,”You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.”
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?”Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.”
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, ” Daddy,I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?”
The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge . Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
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September 1st, 2007 by aaks
CONFIDENCE
Once, all village people decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer all people gathered and only one boy came with an Umbrella, that’s Confidence
TRUST
Trust should be like the feeling of a one year old baby when you throw him in the air, he laughs……because he knows you will catch him; that’s Trust
HOPE
Every night we go to bed, we have no assurance to get up alive in the next morning but still you have plans for the coming day ; that’s Hope
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