January 29th, 2008 by aaks
Stress is a killer. But in this article, you’ll learn how to kill the stress, not the other way around.
I really hate stress. I’ve had it bad in my time and sometimes you just don’t know why your body is reacting like that. But luckily I have some relief at hand for you, just check out these tips:
Just Say No
Modern life is so much different to the days when we lived in a cave and foraged for food and there wasn’t really much to do. Just to keep up with the rat race these days it seems like you’ve got to remember to pay the bills, file your taxes, post that package, keep up with friends and that’s before you even get to work!
Learn how to say no to people. That means friends who want to see you all the time and managers who try to take advantage of your good abilities by giving you the tedious work for no extra pay because they don’t trust anyone else. Your amount of responsibility is directly related to your stress levels so just stop trying to please everyone and tell them “no”. It’s time to look after yourself from now on.
Get Some Laughs In Your Life
You know, laughter has been studied in clinical trials and its proven to improve our health. The easiest way to get laughter is to just watch it on TV. We’ve never had it so easy and those guys with comedy channels have it even better. Heck, just go to Youtube and type in “Takeshi’s Castle”. I found it last night and it was hilarious!
Get Active
Exercise is a strange thing. You wouldn’t think that doing a workout has got anything to do with your stressful job or home situation, would you? But your mind and body are inextricably linked and, somehow, I don’t know how but somehow, doing just a short workout will help you relax more. I know one thing for sure - you will be able to get to sleep a lot more easily. I’ll bet that some of you stressed out people reading this have trouble sleeping, I know that I did when I was stressed. When you have worked out that day, you’ll be able to drop off like a baby.
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January 29th, 2008 by aaks
You may answer no I do not have a low self esteem, I a am a very self confident individual I believe I can do anything I set my mind to. However even if you are self confident; does not exactly mean that you possess a high self image. This is completely different on than confidence. Your self image comes from deep within; and it is how you truly feel about yourself.
If you have ever known anyone who is very self confident in their career. Yet they find their personal life a wreck or they are constantly getting in trouble and do not feel good about themselves. They are dealing with a low self esteem issue. One can not possess a high self esteem and their personal life be totally chaotic. If you possess a high self esteem a high self confidence level then everything in your life whether personal or professional will be wonderful.
Only you can be honest with yourself about whether or not you have it. Answer these questions honestly and based on the answers you will know if you have a low self esteem or not:
- Do you constantly compare yourself to others?
- Do you possess regular feelings of being victimized?
- Do you feel like people take advantage of you?
- Do you find yourself constantly apologizing to others?
- Do you fear change?
- Are you constantly regretting about past decisions you made?
- Do you engage in regular self-sabotage?
Were the responses to those questions positive or negative? Be honest with yourself if you do possess one it is not the end of the world. You can learn how to work on it so that it will help you achieve whatever it is you desire. You do not have to continue living with the negative responses you got.
We all achieve our belief system while we are children. We are given our beliefs through people that we love and respect. If they tend to tell you something; then you tend to believe it. Sometimes what they tell you can empower you; while sometimes the opposite is the same. So how can you change that disempower low self esteem to help you achieve whatever it is you desire. Well it all starts with personal development.
You must begin the path to positive living. If you want to make more money then what what one do? They of course would be open to opportunities that presented themselves. Developing a high self esteem is the same, you can not continue to keep putting negative things in your mind and expect things to change. We are bombarded with all kinds of negativity in our lives. The negativity can come in all sorts of forms through the music we listen, television we watch and people we hang out with.
Begin cutting off the news and reading more positive books. Not only will this help your pride but it will also give you the courage to pursue your goals.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
Have you ever had one of those days? You know, the kind of day where nothing seems to be going your way? You find yourself being a little bit negative about everything? (Okay, more than a little bit.) Everyone’s out to get you.
I’m sure we all feel like this some days. It’s human nature. A domino effect if you will. One person cuts you off on the way to work so you get angry and cut someone else off. Someone cuts you in the lunch line; you give some attitude to the cashier. This, however, has to stop. Put an end to unnecessary rudeness. Frankly, I’m a little upset that this type of behavior is expected of people.
My dad always told me “Kill them with kindness.” I like to think I follow this rule in my life. That being said I am a firm believer in the Golden Rule. This is because when you are nice to someone, they will be nice to you (the majority of the time). It is cause and effect. You don’t have to take Algebra to figure that one out.
We have the power to make everyone a little kinder, a little more thoughtful, a little more gracious and a little less rude. Here a
re a few ways to start off your new life as a world changing citizen:
1. Always tip. I don’t mean give away your money, but put yourself in the shoes of a server. Difficult customers who come in with their own attitudes, cooks who can only cook as fast as they can, a host who keeps seating people in your section… I mean really, you’re only one person. Just think about that.
2. When in doubt, hope for the best. It’s easy to be negative; it’s hard to be optimistic. Here is an easy solution: Put on a smile and hope for the best. Positive thinking can make a world of a difference in your own and others lives.
3. Be gracious whenever possible. This can be in the grocery store, on the highway, at work-wherever this happens to be, you will feel better wherever you are.
4. Be kind to yourself! Have genuine positive feelings about yourself and you will see the world around you lighten up. First, start by eating vegetables and fresh fruit every day. Secondly, institute a Wellness Program into your life that caters to a healthy lifestyle.
Follow this advice and you might begin to see the silver lining of the world… (and the rest of the world might too!)
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
Being a negative thinker is very unhealthy as it lowers your self-esteem and bad for your morale. It drains your energy rapidly and causes you to lose focus. To stop being a negative thinker, you have to change your thoughts pattern.
1. The first tip to being positive is to look after your body and mind. To ensure that you are in a good shape, eat well, exercise regularly, sleep well and spend time with your family. A relaxed and healthy body is a natural attractant for positive energy.
2. Reject and delete any negative thoughts that flashed through your mind. Researchers found out that an average person has about 60 000 thoughts being flashed through his mind on a single day. Why should anyone cling onto a negative thought? Make a conscious decision, and do your best to rid of any negative thoughts.
3. Hug your loved ones. By hugging, it increases your self-esteem. It makes you feel comfortable and loved. Move past a cold and sturdy handshake, and hug someone you really love and care for.
4. Make sure that you surround yourself with happy, cheerful people. Avoid friends who think poorly of themselves. This way your mind will always pick up positive vibes.
5. On a piece of paper, write down all the things that you are happy and grateful for. They can be your friends, your colleagues and your family. After you are done with the writing, paste the list somewhere it is conspicuous so that you can see it everyday. This will remind you of all the things you are grateful for and not take the things you have now for granted. Most importantly, it keeps you happy too.
6. Get out of the habit of fixing labels to people and situations. Don’t say “I always knew it” “I always said so” “She never cared for me” “You have always used me” , etc. Such negative thoughts put you on a negative footing. They also lower your self-esteem.
7. Do not ever be afraid to speak up. You will never gain confidence if you do. You do not need to bother what others might view you as if you speak up as you are living your own life, not others. Opportunities may slip away if you remain silent.
8. Don’t think of the negative stuff when something happened. When your boss asks for you, don’t think of him reprimanding you or giving you a sack. Life is unpredictable; he may want to give you a raise in salary for your excellent performance.
9. Extend a helping hand to those in need. You can read a story to your neighbor’s mother who is crippled and can’t move; or you may go out and trim the garden of an orphanage on a weekend you are free. You will find that these small gestures have a wonderful way of generating positive energy. They make you feel warm, energetic and wanted.
10. There may be times when you find it impossible to get rid of negative thoughts. In such situations you should go out of your house for a walk or a jog. You can even go to the gym and do some light exercises. Such activity takes your mind off the negative thoughts.
If you follow these steps, you will find that your mind starts rejecting negative thoughts on its own.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
Positive emotions broaden one’s thinking.
Given the opposite environment - one in which negative emotions emerge - this makes perfect sense. What do people express when they are in a funk or depressed? They say they can’t think of anything else; their thought processes narrow. Many people in that situation even say even their vision narrows - the “looking through a narrow tunnel” syndrome.
Now, researchers have confirmed that the opposite occurs when positive emotions exist. They say that people who experience positive emotions “show a style of broad-minded coping in which they step back from the current problems and consider them from multiple angles.”
Obviously, that approach comes in handy during a stressful situation. People in a positive state are more likely to reappraise the situation in a positive light and be more goal-directed. They are also more likely to infuse ordinary events with positive meaning, which in turns help them survive or thrive despite adversity.
The research is part of an effort to better understand the dynamics at play related to happiness and unhappiness. Called the “broaden-and-build” theory, researchers say that a happier person expands their resources and then builds on those new opportunities to generate even more satisfaction. It’s an important insight for it demonstrates how important it can be for a person to get out of a negative state and work towards a more satisfying and enriching life. Counselors and therapists have begun using this approach in a movement called “positive psychology” and are showing effective results.
Norman Vincent Peale got it right - the power of positive thinking rests in its ability to broaden, not narrow, our thoughts, perceptions and actions. If you want to change your actions, change your emotions first.
Gene Pinder is the assistant director of an executive master’s program at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. He is also the author of The Psychology of Satisfaction and Happiness, a blog focusing on the current science and research of well-being. A journalist and marketer by training, Gene is also an artist of original oils and acrylic paintings.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
We’ve all heard, numerous times, the more you repeat something, the more likely you are to start to believe it. Since we live in a belief-driven Universe, this is a very important statement, and one that has been given much attention in Self-help, religious, and therapeutic texts for a good long while. Affirmations are used to help us with everything from improving our self-esteem, to increasing our income and decreasing our waistlines. Athletes, Seekers, and Network Marketers alike have all numerated the glorious benefits of “Positive Affirmations” and we have all heard the stories of folks down on their luck, or who become ill, depressed, sociopathic or worse, as a result of Negative Affirmations.
So, if Affirmations are so effective, why don’t more people use them? Why is it that if you print out your positive affirmations on an index card and lay them out on your desk, to remind you of them during the day, people will begin to think you’re off your rocker, or some kind of kook? How come Affirmations aren’t something that everyone practices, especially since it’s such a sure-fire way to get to where you want to go? Because they take forever to work, that’s why.
Any good teaching will tell you that repetition is key, and the more repetitions the better! Brainwave Entrainment software and recordings have sold untold thousands of copies of “positive affirmations” in an attempt to help folks who just can’t sit around all day chanting “I am now happy” like a mantra til they finally get happy. It could take a while, and who has time to wait nowadays?
Not me, and I’m a big believer in affirmations. However, I’ve found a short-cut. I like simple, easy, and fast. That’s why I love the Emotional Freedom Techniques. EFT for short. EFT was designed to help those in therapy to shorten the span of time between first visit and noticeable results, but it turned out to be nothing short of a miraculous remedy for everything from depression, diabetes, bee stings and ADHD to everything in between, and then some.
EFT is an Energy Meridian Therapy, and you simply tap on certain Acupuncture points in the body, while you direct your mind with phrases. The magic is in the words you use, and the emotions you have attached to those words. So to supercharge my affirmations, what I do is first ask myself “Why do I currently not such and such?” for example, “Why am I currently not earning 7 grand per month?” One of the answers to that question is “7 grand is a lot of money for ANYBODY to earn, and I’m nothing special that I should earn that much” That’s a tappable issue!
The key to getting underneath all the emotional gunk, and really cleaning out any resistance to earning 7 grand is to exaggerate my issue. So my Setup phrase would go “Even though 7 grand is a WHOLE LOT of money, and I’m nothing special, what makes me think I could earn that much? I don’t deserve it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” the fun part is dramatizing it. I draw out the words, fake some self-loathing and pitiful whining, really get goofy. Of course, I’m hiding in the bathroom, or hunkered down in the car when I do this, in case the NutCase Police are watching.
It’s also a good practice to know exactly WHY you desire the thing you’re shooting for. In my case, it’s independence, and Travel. Then I ask myself “Why do I currently not have the independence I desire, Why am I currently not traveling when I want?” Ka-Blam! More tappable issues. Some are personal, some financial, some are self-worth related, and some are just really silly. I tap on all of them. Rational or not.
After I’ve tapped out any resistance to my goal, it’s time to tap IN some Positive Affirmations. I really like Gary Craig’s suggestion of singing them, while you’re tapping. So, to the tune of “Old MacDonald Had a Farm” I sing “I make 7 grand a month, very easily” Sometimes, I like to make up a tune as I go, and it usually comes out sounding suspiciously like one nursery rhyme or other. I use all the tapping points, but my favorite is the Collarbone and Thymus. You might have a different favorite, so use that one.
Here’s the thing. Using Affirmations alone, it would probably take years to reach that income goal. But with the horsepower of EFT behind my affirmations, I’m on track to reach my income goals sometime later THIS year! (Yeah, 2008. Gives me goosebumps just thinking about it) If it only cut the time in half, think how much faster you would achieve YOUR goals!
EFT is a gift, and becoming proficient at it only takes practice. So follow Gary Craig’s advice. Try it on everything.
Susan Denham is an EFT Practitioner and Personal Performance Coach who specializes in helping people achieve balance and harmony in their lives. To learn more about Susan, and Energy Meridian Therapies, and get your free Audio/PDF “Muscle Testing and EFT” visit http://ProsperityPromotions.com
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
We have learned through the Law of Attraction that positive thoughts and feelings bring events to support more positive thoughts and feelings. We use our emotions as a gauge and a tool to manifest more of what we want. How do you stay positive though when life seems to suck? Who hasn’t had one of those days when everything seemed to go wrong despite your best efforts? It can be challenging to keep a positive attitude and maintain your faith that the Law of Attraction is working and your dreams are still be manifesting at times like this. How do you stay positive? Well here are just a few suggestions.
1. First and foremost, remember that we may have gotten off track a bit. The Universe may be making adjustments to allow what you asked for to manifest. It seems most intentions involve other people in one form or another. If you want wealth, you are manifesting meeting those people who can help you to attain it. If you are looking for love… well, that one is obvious. If you are looking for improved health and vitality, a person may be the one to give you the nudge in the right direction. So how do you know that the missed flight, the missed appointment, the broken whatever isn’t setting you up to meet that person? Maybe it is something that won’t happen immediately. Maybe your dryer breaks, you figure out how to fix it, and three years from now you meet someone and strike up a conversation because you now know how to fix their broken dryer. This may all sound crazy, but if you think back, I’m certain you will find “coincidences” that happened just because of something like this.
2. Take a look at how important the inconveniences occurring right now really are. After all, will you even remember them in ten years, five years, or even six months? If not, are they really worth worrying about? And if they are major enough to remember, odds are they are changing your life in a positive direction if you can see it and make the most of it.
3. Notice what you are learning from the experience. I recently went on a trip during which I missed a flight, arrived to my destination city late, got lost on the way to my destination three times, and somehow managed to stay fairly positive throughout. Once I had a good night’s sleep, I was proud of the fact that I had overcome all of the obstacles and proven to myself that I could manage on my own. Sometimes difficulties are the very events that force us out of our comfort zone thereby expanding it.
4. Remember that your current reality is a result of your past thoughts. If you are struggling now, changing your thoughts if they have been negative can bring about a change of events. If your thoughts have been consistently positive, just hang in there and be grateful for the lessons and adjustments that are bringing about your dreams.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
Well here you are, developing your list of things that you ARE going to achieve, goals that you are going to materialize so that you can ease that burning desire, and finally live that life that you know you deserve! You have been studying yourself and really opening up your mind to all the opportunities and possibilities: isn’t it exciting? You know it is.
It is great that you finally have a belief in yourself; that you know you can earn twice the money you are now and you know that finally you can buy your dream home and find that perfect partner. You have developed your new mindset to have faith instead of just hoping. Hope is just a wish list, while faith is true belief.
Wait a minute though; as you are talking about your goals and aspirations, people that you deal with, even live with, every day are saying:
1. You can’t do that, what are you thinking
2. Money is the root of all evil
3. Rich people are bad
4. You will never find the perfect person, you should settle for someone good and nice
5. You don’t deserve to be any happier than the rest of us
6. And on and on it goes and you know what, will continue to go.
It is important to realize that the people around you have no problem with you achieving or being successful. They really don’t. The reality is though unless they are like minded to you when it comes to big thinking, goal setting and materializing your goals they will never want you to be more successful than them. It is just a fact. Think about it when you see one of your friends, or a family member become really “lucky” or achieve a milestone are you truly happy for them or do you say, man that is great for them, but what about me?
Should you be fortunate enough to have positive minded people in your circle of influence take notice of their reaction when someone gets promoted, or achieves a milestone. Their first reaction will be one of elation for the person and gratitude for knowing someone that has attracted such good fortune into their lives. Proof of abundance will abound for them. Here are some tips for becoming the person that knows and believes that abundance in all aspects of life is for and is readily available to everybody:
1. Keep a gratitude log; every time something happens that is positive in your life, write it down
2. Affirm and visualize your goals consistently
3. Write your goals out in story form to help you in your visualizations
4. Associate with like minded people. Join a law of Attraction group or have a get together to watch your new favorite movie The Secret
5. Most importantly when dealing with your circle of influence is (drum roll please)
Be influential, not influenced: How great would it be to watch your friends and family become ultra successful and jump on this journey with you. Remember that if your life is on autopilot, it will not take long for your sub-conscious mind to steer you right back on the course you were on. Take the reigns folks, control your outcomes and create your own destiny.
Perry Thorne is a successful online entrepreneur, working on his first book which will be ready in 2008. Perry now has a goal and mission of helping as many other people, that have or can develop a true burning desire. Perry realizes that no one else can define freedom for someone else. at the materialize your goals blog he is able to keep people up to date with the ongoing pursuit of materializing your goals. Perry is renowned in his local area as a motivational speaker and online entrepreneur. He uses the blog as a way to give back.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
There is no need to waste time working your way to the top. Start in your mind to imagine the grandest possibilities.
I remember a poem I wrote several years ago. It questioned this very idea by looking at examples all around me and asking …why Joe the Sharecropper when he can own the plantation; or, why be the janitor when you could be President of ABC Cleaning Company; and why be just another gear in the wheel when you could be the wheel that makes the world go ’round. Start “Thinking Big” this minute and see where your thoughts can take you.
Go on then
“Thinking Big” can get you to the top faster than any other form of mind conditioning. Every thought you have can be done bigger. Every imagination becomes real when you believe that dreams cannot fill your mind unless it can become truth. This is where genius comes from. It is inside you. It is the bridge you must walk across to separate yourself from the wretched soul who cannot see a future beyond the tip of his lip.
Seek the challenges
When challenged we rise to expectations, whether from the boss, spouse or anyone else we respect. Embrace the excitement of such challenges. Crave the uneasiness that comes with it. Nervousness is a sign that you are not languishing. Outwardly it is seen as proof that you’re making an effort to pull from your subconscious the genius that goes unnoticed.
The difference in geniuses and “not to much genius” is insight. The insight is like a guidepost with the purpose of making your talents an unlimited resource. For example, ever witnessed someone do something that you know you can do better? Ever thought of an idea only to see someone enjoying the rewards, even though you had it first?
The Nervous Zone
Stepping out in the unfamiliar, nervous zone is the difference between you and them. They chose to confront the nervousness. You did not. Now they enjoy what is rightfully yours. Stepping up to the plate, taking one more swing, resolving to do it different next time creates momentum needed for great achievement.
When nervousness exists in a situation it stops you cold. But this is not the time to stop and think. It is the time for action. It is the time to sprint forward. Although the steps are small, the key is to make each step, swifter and higher and with more resolute determination. Before long, you’ll look to the left and to the right only to realize that you are leading the race. And that is a great position to be in because along the way each successive step has emblazoned your confidence. The sheer competition of the game is more exciting than the actual game itself. The gains you receive in self-confidence, attitude and mental agility cannot be measured by known standards.
It is really dead simple, but not that easy.
Joel Williams is a recognized authority on the subject of motivation. His website, http://www.myselfimprovementguide.com/positive provides a wealth of informative articles and resources on everything you’ll ever need to know about self-improvement.
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January 28th, 2008 by aaks
“It still holds true that man is most uniquely human when he turns obstacles into opportunities.” –Eric Hoffer
I had a teacher who was relentlessly optimistic and positive about everything. As a teenager, it sort of bugged me because. . . .well, because I was a teenager and teenagers are seldom relentlessly optimistic or positive. Everything “bad” could be turned into something “good” according to this teacher. Setbacks and obstacles were learning experiences. Crushes gone bad and broken hearts were just a preparation for really clarifying what we wanted in a mate. Struggles with certain subjects in school became self challenges that we could, by all means, triumph over.
Ugh. It really annoyed me.
Now, as an adult, and a parent of teenagers (who happen not to be pessimists or negative), I realize that she was 100%, absolutely correct.
We get into these ruts. . . we get into these ways of thinking about things around us that keep us trapped. It’s the old clich of the ‘glass half full/glass half empty’.
The events in your life are not what make you who you are, but it is your response to these events that show your true character. Lately I’ve been really exploring the idea that our emotions and emotional responses to external stimuli, are choices. Emotions are choices. That’s a revelation in some ways. It’s very freeing. I’m not connected to anger if I don’t want to be. I’m not responding with fear because I choose not to. I’m not choosing to be depressed about things I have no control over.
Changing this pattern also requires that we pay careful and patient attention to the language we use. I am choosing to be courageous. I am choosing to let this go. I am choosing to realize that I am separate from the things that happen around me.
What if just by readjusting our obstacles into opportunities, we attract more of what we want? What if it’s that simple? Wouldn’t it be worth it to suspend cynicism? Wouldn’t it be worth it to let go of the patterns that have kept us stagnant? I should think so.
I only wish I had learned this lesson earlier. Reframing struggle into potential is exactly the kind of thing that we as persuaders can learn to do. Framing and reframing our lives and the lives of those around us is absolutely mandatory if we want to succeed in persuasion. Whether we are helping others to see that the glass is half full, helping them to see how our products and services will benefit them in life, or persuading our loved ones to realize that every day we make the choice to be unhappy. Let’s make our choices consciously and use that consciousness for relentless optimism.
Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to sell to affluent clients using persuasion strategies He runs unique public and private seminars and offers home study courses, audio/visual learning tools, and coaching programs in persuasion techniques Find more free articles at http://www.MAXpersuasion.com/blog Be sure to sign up for his free report entitled “Yes! Persuasion.”
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